Emotional Abuse, in contrast to. Conflict
To understand the impact of emotional Abuse, it is vital to recognize the distinction between emotional violence and everyday conflicts.
Conflict is a common element of every relationship. It is a healthy method for two people to share their feelings, discuss an issue, and also have an opportunity to talk about any topic that bothers them.
Abuse of emotions includes non-physical conduct that slams someone else. It could consist of insults, humiliation, put-downs, threats verbally, or other ways to cause the person to feel unwelcome, inadequate, or humiliated.
When is Conflict Not Conflict, but Something More? When is it Emotional Abuse?
Have you ever felt an uneasy stomach when you were dealing with someone or felt like something was not right? If one of you feels fearful and confused or feels like everything they do won’t be correct, it could indicate emotional Abuse.
Emotional Abuse refers to behavior by an individual who creates a constant feeling of guilt about yourself as if you aren’t a person you can be. The problem of emotional Abuse is not restricted to a romantic relationship. However, it can also be committed by friends, family members, or colleagues. It can cause you to feel embarrassed, ashamed and secluded, abused, or uncomfortable, among many other feelings. The effects of emotional Abuse are challenging to recognize since no one other than you can “see” its results like they might be an injury, cut, or even a mark.
A need for control and authority usually drives Abuse. However, the motivation behind why this need is present varies. Perhaps the person who caused you harm didn’t intentionally cause damage; maybe they were trying to hurt you. It’s beneficial to know the “why”; the reasons do not justify reckless behavior. However, they can make things more difficult. Abuse of emotions can be complex and confusing. Here are five signs that indicate emotional Abuse
5 Signs of Emotional Abuse
They are Hyper-Critical or Judgmental Towards You
- Human nature is to criticize or judge. However, in emotional abuse situations, the situation is taken to a higher step. The way to describe it is:
- Making you look bad in the face of people
- You are humiliated or harmed.
- Making use of sarcasm or “teasing” or “jokes” to make you feel bad about yourself
- A personal opinion on many things that you do say or think about
- Disagree when you aren’t (e.g., the way you dress, the way you use your funds, with whom you hang out, or what you’re most interested in)
They Ignore Boundaries or Invade Your Privacy
- Each of us has the right to own our space. It can be challenging to discern between the rush and excitement of a new relationship or connection and an invasion of your privacy because you would like to spend all in with the unique person. It can be as if you are your companion:
- Are you looking to make a connection faster than you’re at ease with physically or emotionally (e.g., telling someone “I love you” very quickly, and then requiring you to reciprocate and urging you into sexual activities, or pushing you to join forces)
- Examine your text messages, emails, and social media profiles, without your consent
They are Possessive and Controlling
- The abusive person may attempt to limit your behavior by using unjustified jealousy. Examples include:
- Monitor your actions
- Texting or constantly calling even when you’re not there
- Being angry whenever you would like to spend time with yourself or with your family or your friends on your own
- Separating you from others who are in your life, or from things you are passionate about or that you do
They are Manipulative
- An emotionally abusive person could use a variety of tactics to get you to perform what they want or make you feel bad for yourself, including:
- Refraining from affection after you’ve committed a crime “wrong.”
- We’re ignoring or excluding you.
- Guilty trips
- Making you doubt yourself
- You can’t deny something that you know to be factual.
They Often Dismiss You and Your Feelings
- The perpetrator may try to minimize your feelings or feelings using:
- You are being too sensitive or calling yourself insane.
- You are funnily praising your achievements or your hopes and dreams.
- Refusing to discuss or accept the responsibility for their actions
- You or someone else to be responsible for someone else’s actions (it’s not their fault)
- Indifferent to your emotions